FLASHBACK : 27TH FEB, 2011

I wrote this earlier on this year, and my view STILL hasn't changed just thought I'd bring it here for anyone who never got the chance to read...

So last week, I said something really random and in response, some guy said to me

‘that’s why you don’t have a boyfriend’.(I HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE that line so much. What exactly does it imply?)
I went on to say..

‘Who says I want one’ 

and he replies

‘That’s what every single girl tricks herself into believing.. either she doesn’t want one or need one.’

That was the sentence that got me tickin. THE WORST BIT: Every guy there was like ‘I know right’ or ‘Truuueee’ or just a comment of agreement.

You boys need to understand that sometimes a girl just want to go out with her friends, meet people and not have to give a toss about ‘if he’ll be upset’ or ‘will this make him jealous’.
 Its why we have ladies night, not because we are ‘sad’ or  we ‘can’t get a man’.. because we genuinely do not want a man.

I hear boys so often say, relationships are ‘long’, ‘stressful’, ‘over-hyped’, ‘over-rated’ e.t.c the list goes on, and I’m sat there thinking.. Hold on a minute.. who says its easy for girls? Do you think stressing over a man is our idea of life?

And then when she gets hurt, she puts men on hold and you say ‘Not all men are the same.’ 

Its true, I agree, not all men are the same… some are worse, some are men with the mind of a boy, some are thoughtless, empty minded and shallow and others are just there.  I’m not trying to slag boys of, don’t get me wrong… I have a brother and my best friend is a guy and I think I have more guy friends than girl friends, but when guys say girls are ‘stingy’ they need to check its not them. 

I remember one day, a guy said to me ‘Virgins above 16 are stingy.’ (I know not all guys think this). I was shocked. That statement was full of greed. It fumed me, yet I managed to stay calm and say… ‘Stingy people always have a lot to give whenever they decide to.’

Boys be careful what you say around girls, especially single girls.. it sticks.. it develops the stereotype and it counteracts your game. 

Girls..enjoy being single, don’t feel pressured into a relationship because they say you are lonely or because everyone around you is in one. I’ll tell you this… you’re more treasured when your unavailable and that is a FACT!

A tip for the fellas

For boys that have a scandalous reputation, EXPECT her to be weary.
If you’ve got a best friend that’s a female.. EXPECT her to be on guard.
If you jam with you ‘homies’ most of the time, EXPECT her to be needy/clingy.
If you’re to secretive, EXPECT her to be intrusive.
If she is upset, EXPECT her to call YOU to rant/cry/shout.