Are we talking? Or having a conversation?

Do you guys talk or you just have conversation?

Know before you interact. Cos it affects the other persons interpretation.

Recently, I've come to realise, there's a difference between a talk and a conversation.

Most people fail to realise this and head straight on into communication. 

Words and Ideas and topics come up, with no real substance to the discussion

And even then people aren't aware, that the speaking is merely a form of interaction. 

See when conversation is nigh, there's no solid destination

Any and everything goes, 

It's an exchange of knowledge, or random ass stories or a line of mutual friends one knows. 

But a talk, now that, that holds shed loads of weight

For there's a purpose, an aim, a goal. 

Apology, explanation, update or confrontation

There's something that has to be said. 

The convo* won't end, till the agenda is reached

The problem lies in simple differentiation. 

We lack ability to do. 

And even the party responsible for initiation 

Tends to start off on the wrong foot.

'Can I talk to you' said the man at the bar, when he has no clue of what he wants to say. 

Another problem is clarity in definition.

A misunderstanding of your 'relationship' can do as much damage as emotion.

Are you on that level where you can have a 'deep conversation' 

Or is every word said measured in the context of bants.

The inability to decipher, the strength of the bond leaves one party more enthusiastic than the other. 

Thus when it comes to understanding, two mindsets have been fed, and interpretations different because one party was misled. 

Let's not leave out expectations. 

These are critical in conversation. 

Because regardless of the way we talk elsewise will be heard. 

For someone filled with hatred, they may have developed a dedication to demand that every interpretation is an imitation of the past. 

We set our minds to believe that someone is already bad,

Therefore all the ever say must follow suit. 

They hear no excuses, want no explanation just hold that opinion against them and keep other opinions mute. 

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I could go on with shed loads of reasons, for what I call misspecification,

But the key is to differentiate between a talk and conversation